🌸 It takes true strength to be soft, vulnerable, open & seen.
I once read that children will try to make you feel how they are feeling.
👶🏼 As in, a child isn’t giving you a hard time, a child is having a hard time & is letting you know by subconsciously provoking you to feel that way too.
💡 Extrapolating on this theory, when it comes to those adults who can be particularly uncomfortable to deal with…
️⚡️ who register in our system more as 🌵 ”spikey” rather than 🌸 "inviting & open":
🌵 the extent to which they are trying to intimidate you, is the extent to which they are intimidated?
🌵 the extent to which they are trying to puff themselves up and feel superior to you, is the extent to which they feel inferior?
🌵 the extent to which they dismiss your ideas, is the extent to which they’re scared of being wrong or of questioning their current ideas?
🌵 the extent to which they attempt to bulldoze your boundaries, is the extent to which they are scared of being powerless?
🌵 the extent to which they have a wall up, is the extent to which they are truly soft, scared & vulnerable inside?
🏜 Perhaps, from this view, those that appear to be more spikey, armoured up, defensive, that push the boundaries of others & avoid looking inwards, self reflecting or letting down their “wall”, really aren’t so scary at all, and are actually the most scared.
🐾 The most scared dog is the one that barks the loudest (I.e. tries to intimidate the other dogs the most)
🤔 Perhaps, in the end, the extent to which someone seems “scary” or “intimidating” is the extent to which they are scared or intimidated.
✨ The most intimidating people, might in fact be the weakest.
Food for thought.
“So the flexible overcome the adamant, the yielding overcome the forceful” - Tao Te Ching