❤️ Sometimes it seems as though the loudest voices in society are the extroverts & big social groups…
👥 Because they’re more socially focused, we often see their social lives the most
👀 Which can make it seem like everyone is that way.
But, they’re not.
😶🌫️ The introverts are often quietly keeping to themselves
❤️ You’re allowed to choose what family & connection means to you.
✅ Yes those that want you to live into their values won’t like it
✅ You can handle people not liking you… after all, you’re an introvert… what’s the worst that can happen?
➡️ You end up left alone with only other introverts who get it
✅ Alone is better than people who want you to be something you’re not
✅Connection is only good for you if it is emotionally safe & supportive connection
🧠 When studying social psychology, I discovered that groups are neither good or bad for us…
💡 What makes a group good or bad for us, comes down to the specific attributes of that group.
❌ So a toxic group, is bad for you.
✅ A respectful group, is good for you.
Either way… you don’t need something to be “bad”, in order to decide you would prefer something else.
✅It’s enough that you recognise other things are higher on your values list & live according to that, and let others do the same.
✅ The people that care about your mental health will support you in doing what is best for you
❌ The people that wanted you to fulfil their needs might call you selfish for not pleasing them… the irony
✅ More confirmation that you made a good decision to take space.
😊 You don’t need everyone to like you or be happy with you.
❤️ You only need 1-5 healthy, safe relationships.
❗️ Living by your values might come with grief: grief of losing people’s good opinion, grief of losing the “good girl” people pleasing image, discomfort of change, discomfort of getting of people being upset with you…
➡️ Being someone you’re not to please others is hard.
➡️Doing what is best for your well-being, but upsets those who wanted you to play the part they expected from you, is hard too.
✅ It’s about choosing your hard