How to be more emotionally balanced



🤔 Do you ever find yourself thinking “I wish I was more like X person”, or “I should be more like Y”?


🧠 The Self-Discrepancy Theory provides that:


🌸 When we compare our “actual” self to some “ideal” self that we think we’d like to be… we experience dejection related emotions (🖤 e.g. disappointment, sadness & dissatisfaction); and


🌸 When we compare our “actual” self to some identity that we think we “ought” to be… we experience agitation related emotions (🥵 e.g. fear, anxiety, threat)


In summary,


🖤 Comparing who we currently are to some fantasy we think we should be, encourages depressive type feelings, &


😵 Comparing who we currently are to who we think others & society thinks we ought to be, encourages anxious type feelings.


💡 The solution?


❤️ Self-acceptance


❤️ Learning to find the perfect imperfection in who you actually are, allows for more inner peace.


✨ Radical AcceptanceSurrender ✨ = Peace 😌


🎁 Quick tip for getting to that accepting, peaceful place?


✔︎ Gratitude: Disciplining your mind to find appreciation for exactly the way you are, right now.


🎁 Longer tip for deeper embodiment?


✔︎ Uncovering your values, living in alignment with who you really are, neutralising the inner turmoil that’s causing you to “should” on yourself & to allow others to “should” on you + working the tools that bring you to a state of acceptance & appreciation …

✔︎ I.e. doing the inner work to embrace your actual self.


🔦 Ideally, with a guide that knows the way (like me 😊)

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